Unedited, candid, and honest–Brie Bythewood at her best.

Brie Bythewood has been called a lot of things since she made her television debut on Bravo’s new series, Blood, Sweat, Heels.

She’s been called “boring” and referred to as one of the “mean girls.”

She’s been sent tweets that said “I hate your voice.  I hope you die.”

Yet the irony of it all is that Brie is far from mean–she can be a little hesitant, but once she gets comfortable with you, it’ll be like you’re talking to an old friend you’ve had for years; the kind you share clothes with, the one you call when your boyfriend cheats on you with your ex best friend, the one who helped you learn to walk in high heels, and taught you how to wear makeup so you didn’t look like a clown–almost like an older, wiser, big sister.

“If people actually got to know me, they’d really like me,” Brie said.

Far from boring, Brie admits that she is “a bit tamer” than the other ladies on the show.

“We’re all big personalities; some more so than others.  I end up playing the peacemaker a lot, which I guess is why I can come off as ‘boring’ to some viewers.  I don’t expect people to make sense of verbal hieroglyphics.  I don’t expect people to make sense of what I say; I expect my words to make sense.  I’m of the mindset if it’s not a big deal, why fight about it?  I don’t involve myself in crazy.  Unfortunately, crazy is what makes good TV.  I have no apologies about my role on the show; I don’t apologize for being true to myself,” she said.

Added Brie, “You can actually learn a lot from arguments, though.  They can be a great source of education because you can see where you’re wrong or learn about a different viewpoint.”

Arguments included, Brie confirmed that everything on the show is true–and it all happens exactly how you see it–but there are some things to keep in mind.

Like the fact that viewers don’t see everything that goes on.

For example, during the infamous Hamptons episode, Brie admits that what was aired reflected poorly on herself, Geneva, and Demetria.

“Keep in mind that what you’re seeing on the show isn’t the whole story.  It’s snippets of a larger story.  You’re seeing four to five months of filming edited down to eight minutes of airtime so it can fit in an hour long episode.  It’s unfortunate that viewers didn’t get to see everything in this particular situation, because it would have explained our confusion about Micah’s behavior and why we reacted the way we did.  We though Micah’s dad was only being discussed so that viewer’s would know that he was ill; not because he had gotten worse.  We would ask her about him and we were never clued in to the fact he had taken a turn for the worst.  She was two hours late and no one knew there were any changes with her dad.  Seeing Micah without Terry [her boyfriend], is like seeing your hand without fingers.  To see her show up and him not be there was very unusual, so I actually thought they were arguing or had broken up.  I had no idea it had anything to do with her dad.  There was a greater conversation that ensued than what was shown.  I’ve never been called mean in my life and now people are referring to Demetria, Geneva, and I as ‘mean girls’.  People are reacting to Demetria and I so negatively–someone even called us ‘the devil.’  The venom that’s spewed is surprising and crazy.  That’s far from who I am.  I won’t try and blame editing for certain things–you can’t blame editing for actions. You can’t edit actions.  But I will say that seeing more of what happened would definitely help viewers understand why we reacted in the manner that we did.  People will judge you regardless of who you are and what you do–but I’m actually one of the kindest, nicest, loyal people you can ever meet.  There isn’t time to see the ‘real me’ in an hour long episode.  You don’t get to see the fun side of me or the silly side of me…you don’t get to get familiar with my little quirks.”

One of Brie’s little quirks is asking “What if?”

“I’m the queen of ‘What if,’” Brie exclaimed.  ”I ask myself ‘What if’ about 50 times a day. It’s such a weird, silly little habit.  My mind is a little bit too creative, so I get bored easily.  The ‘What if’ questions I come up with are outrageous.  They’re usually really funny and they’re great icebreakers.  I love to put a smile on people’s faces; my little ‘what ifs’ will usually do the trick.”

Brie, a real estate developer, works for the fourth largest real estate developer in the nation.  However, she went to school for journalism and writing is her passion.

“I still write,” Brie revealed.  ”I collect journals and small rosaries.  I go through journals so quickly.  It could be me venting or it could be something fun.  I always say if I didn’t have my hands, I would learn to write with my feet.”

She’s more than sure that revelation came about during a ‘what if’ moment.

“I like to see the words come to life on a piece of paper.  There’s just something about seeing the fluid motion from a thought in your head to words on paper; there’s something beautiful and powerful to that,” Brie explained.

Another of Brie’s quirks?  Chocolate–she always has a bag of chocolates with her.

“During filming, whenever anyone would complain about being hungry, I always had a bag of chocolate to whip out,”  she laughed.  ”I have six candy dishes in my one bedroom apartment.  There’s always water, champagne, and chocolate.  Always.”

Brie’s random acts of kindness don’t end with passing out candy to her co-stars; she’s also involved in several philanthropic causes, including ones that benefit auto-immune disease, cancer research, and ending homelessness.

For a “mean girl,” Brie Bythewood sure is a sweetheart, and it’s not just because she’s a chocoholic.

“I love to help people.  I’m using this show as a platform to raise awareness; it’s almost like a call to action.  No one is ever too young or too old to help.  No one has a valid excuse as to why they can’t do something to help,” she pointed out.

“I’m hoping that this show will put me back in front of the camera, maybe hosting or reporting,” she shared.

“I want to be a voice that’s heard, but I want it to be a voice for good.  I want it to serve a purpose,” she implored.

For more Brie, be sure to check out Blood, Sweat, Heels every Sunday evening on Bravo.

April Dawn (@scarlettsinatra)